My Boyfriend Was Cheated On Before We Dated And It Measured Our Tie-in

Published in Odd and Fun on 16th July 2017
My Boyfriend Was Cheated On Before We Dated And It Measured Our Tie-in

My current boyfriend and I started dating a little over a year and a half ago. But before me, he had been on and off with a girl for five years.

The reason they were in an on and off relationship was because she cheated on him three times.

Hewas one of my closest friends in high school before we started date. I was with him when he was going through these breakups, and I saw how much pain he wasconstantly in.

When we got together, I promised him right off the at-bat that I would never hurt him the direction she did. I stand by that today, and I will continue to always.

Cheating is the only thing I would never do to someone. If youre so unfortunate with a person, broken off with them and then get with someone else. Dont do it while youre still with your original SO. This only stimulates sorenes and difficulties for them down the road.

Though I would never cheat on someone, I can see why someone would get a stimulate from it. You get to have both: the person or persons you are able to fondle and watch movies with, and then the person or persons you have simply for physical lusts .

But dont do it. Dont be that person who messes with folks emotions in that road. When someone is chiselled on, it bolt with them mentally and emotionally. It scars them.

My boyfriend is strong. Thankfully, hes never had trust questionswith me. But the fact that he was hurt to that extent stays with him and everyone who going on in here it.

He never said anything about it in regards to me, but it was always various kinds of there, hovering in the back of our minds.

I knew it when we got into this relationship.I knew I would never cheat on someone, especially someone whos already are going through the heartbreak of chiselling. Knowing about my lovers past formed me feel even more pressured to stick to my word.

Surprisingly, and thankfully, that pressure didnt really affect our relationship.

Its easy-going to think that someone who going on in here that would have issues in future relationships, but my lover never did. Not with me, at least.

I guess how people deal with cheating can go either way. Itreally depends on the person. Some parties are damaged for life and will eternally have trust issues, others are able to move past it.

I admire the people who can move past it, and empathize with the people who cant. Trust problems are a part of my psychological baggage, and a lot of other people as well.

Trust editions dont just come from being cheated on. For me, they are from being disappointed in the past.

Its hard to get into a new relation with people who have been burned in the past, but its so worth it.If you can be the person whorestores your SOs faith in love, its amazing.

You have to show them that having hurt bad or disclosed in the past doesnt necessitate itll prolong happening.All it takes is one person to change people opinion on love.

The pressure I seemed( and still sometimes find) with my boyfriend wasnt his glitch. He never induced me feel like he couldnt cartel me, and thats important.

When people trust and middle are divulge, it takes love and period for them to mend. If you truly enjoy the person, you should be the one to help them do that. Be the person who is shows them ardour doesnt always have to end badly.

Be their glad ending.

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